“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautifuL part of us.” -david richo
Our thoughts are often, unknowingly, the biggest obstacles we face. Sometimes we keep them secret, afraid of how they may be perceived once they are put out there. People often question their thoughts without actually verbalizing them and wonder if they are rational or irrational. If unable to find these answers, they let them lie silently until they resurface from a triggering event. Are they valid, skewed, incorrect perceptions, or dead-on accurate that warrant some form of action?
The same can be said regarding emotional turmoil. Some people choose to suffer in silence never giving voice to the true feelings within. This may be due to fear of burdening others, embarrassment or shame of feelings or difficulty expressing the inner struggle. There are many other reasons why people choose to keep their emotions to themselves but this often leads to significant distress in relationships or depression and/or anxiety.
A therapist is trained to help guide you to find the answers within, to empower you to problem solve and discover what works for you. Therapy is an opportunity to explore those thoughts and feelings to determine for yourself if they are rational, irrational or possibly based on incorrect assumptions. Through your own processing, you can give these thoughts and emotions a voice, process them out, and get feedback from someone who listens to you and is not going to tell you that you're crazy, paranoid, or just too emotional. You will not hear that here.
Here, I will listen to you intently to understand how your perceptions and thoughts are formed by your experiences. Here, I will not shame you or tell you that you are overreacting. Here, I will strive to understand how your emotions consume you or cause you distress. Here, you will give voice to your thoughts and determine for yourself how you may want to act on or change them, and I will be with you to help guide that process.
This is one of MANY benefits of therapy.
HOW LONG? "There are so many things wrong with me, I'm going to need years and years of help just to get better."
If I had a nickel for every time I heard this comment...
Many clients come in with several concerns and believe they will need to resolve each issue in order to gain that sense of peace in which they are searching. What often happens is, as clients begin to resolve an issue or two through their own processing, they come to realize that there has been what I like to call, "the spillover effect." This means that through the process of learning a skill to apply towards resolution of an issue, a client also finds that they can apply this same skill towards other problems that were also a concern. You don't always have to address one issue at a time to find benefit. The spillover effect happens so often, clients are sometimes amazed that their progress towards their goals is achieved sooner they had originally thought possible.
There is no one size fits all approach to the therapy process. Your road to healing will not be the same as someone else and it is taken at the pace you need. You determine this pace and I will help you make the most of it. I am here to help until you find the peace in which you are searching.